Adoptive Kinship: A Modern Institution in Need of Reform
by H. David Kirk.
Ben-Simon, 1985. ISBN 0914539019.

The Adoption Triangle: Sealed or Opened Records: How They Affect Adoptees, Birth Parents, and Adoptive Parents
by Arthur D. Sorosky, Rueben Pannor, Annette Baran.
Doubleday, 1984.

The Other Mother: A Woman's Love for the Child She Gave Up for Adoption
by Carol Schaefer.
Soho Press, 1991. ISBN 0939149753.

The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child
by Nancy Newton Verier.
Verier Publications, PO Box 208, Lafayette, CA 94549, 1993. ISBN 0963648004.

Shared Fate: A Theory and Method of Adoptive Relationships
by H. David Kirk.
Free Press, 1964. ISBN 002917340X

Tell Me a Real Adoption Story
by Betty Jean Lifton. OP

Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter
by Betty Jean Lifton.
Griffon, 1998. ISBN 0312187661.

Emotional/Psychological Apects of Adoption
Adoptees Come of Age: Living Within Two Families (Counseling and Pastoral Theology)
by Ronald J. Nydam.
John Knox Press, 1999. ISBN 0664256716.

Adoption: Uncharted Waters by David Kirschner, Ph.D.
Juneau Press, 2006. ISBN 0970288336.

Adoption Encounter: Hurt, Transition, Healing
by Mary Jo Rillera.
Pure, 1987. ISBN 0941771152.

Adoption Healing ...a path to recovery
by Joe Soll.
Liturgical Press, 2000. ISBN 0967839009.

Adoption Reunion Survival Guide: Preparing Yourself for the Search, Reunion, and Beyond
by Julie Bailey and Lynn Giddens.
New Harbinger, 2001. ISBN 1572242280.

Adoption Wisdom: A Guide to the Issues and Feelings of Adoption
by Marlou Russell.
Broken Branch, 1996. ISBN 1888511125.

The Art of Adoption
by Linda Cannon Burgess.
Acropolis, 1977. ISBN 0393000362.

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self
by David M.Brodzinsky, Marshall D. Schlechter, Robin Marantz Henig.
Anchor, 1993. ISBN 0385414269.

Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up
by Nancy Newton Verrier
Nancy Verrier, 2003.

Exploring Adoptive Family Life: The Collected Adoption Papers of H. David Kirk
by H. David Kirk.
Ben-Simon, 1988. ISBN 0914539035.

The Family of Adoption: Completely Revised and Updated
by Joyce Maguire Pavao.
Beacon Press, 1999. ISBN 0807028010.

Finding Family
by Rick Ouston.
New Star, 1994. ISBN 0921586310.

The Girls Who Went Away
by Ann Fessler.
Penguin Press HC, 2006. ISBN 1594200947.

In A Country Of Mothers
by A. M. Homes.
Vintage, 1994. ISBN 0679742433.

Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness
by Betty Jean Lifton.
Basic Books, 2000. ISBN 0465036759.

Looking for Lost Bird: A Jewish Woman Discovers Her Navajo Roots
by Yvette Melanson and Claire Safran.
Bard Books, 2000. ISBN 0380795531.

Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent
by Lois Ruskai Messina.
Harper Perennial, 1998. ISBN 0060957174.

Saying Goodbye to a Baby: Birthparents Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption
(Saying Goodbye to a Baby Vol. 1)
by Patricia E. Roles.
Child Welfare League of America, 1989. ISBN 0878683879.

Searching for a Past: The Adopted Adult's Unique Process of Finding Identity
by Jayne E. Schooler.
ISBN 0891098682.
(SQA CEO Susan Friel-Williams is interviewed in this book)

So Here I Am! but Where Did I Come From?: An Adoptee's Search for Identity
By Mary Ruth Wotherspoon.
Pate, 1994. ISBN 0963848801.

Synchronicity and Reunion: The Genetic Connection of Adoptees and Birthparents
by La Vonne Harper Stiffler.
Stiffler, 1992. ISBN 0963441000.

Personal Accounts
Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption Edited
by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere Oparah, and Sun Yung Shin

An Adopted Woman
by Katrina Maxtone-Graham.
Remi, 1983. ISBN 0943362008.

Beneath a Tall Tree
by Jean Strauss.
Arete, 2001. ISBN 0962798207.

by Lorraine Dusky
M. Evans, 1979

Birthmothers: Women Who Have Relinquished Babies for Adoption Tell Their Stories
by Merry Bloch Jones., 2000. ISBN 059500637X.

Blending In: Crisscrossing the Lines of Race, Religion, Family, and Adoption
by Barbara Ann Gowan
iUniverse, Inc., 2007. ISBN 0595443850

Caroline and Just Me
by Caroline Garden.
Harvist Media, 1997. ISBN 0966140400.

Chasing Away the Shadows: An Adoptee's Journey to Motherhood
by Zara Phillips.
Zara Music, 2004.

Confessions of a Lost Mother
by Elisa M. Barton.
Barton, 1996. ISBN 0965079503.

Dear Birthmother
by Kathleen Silber & Phylis Speedlin.
Corona, 1983. ISBN 0931722195.

Finding Me In a Paper Bag: Searching For Both Sides Now
by Sally Howard.
Publisher Gateway Press, 2003

A Ghost at Heart's Edge: Stories and Poems of Adoption edited
by Susan Ito and Tina Cervin.
North Atlantic, 1999. ISBN 1556433239.

The Gift Wrapped in Sorrow: A Mother's Quest for Healing
by Jane Guttman D.C.
JMJ, 1999. ISBN 0967286107.

The Gift of Roots: Heartwarming Reunion Stories As Told to an Adoptive Mother
by Dorothy Morrow.

Giving Away Simone
by Jan Waldron.
Anchor, 1997. ISBN 0385485999.

Healing the Hole in A Heart: One Birthmother's Journey into the Adoption Triangle
by Nancy Mac Isaac.
Mac Isaac Enterprises, 1998. ISBN 097249902.

I Hope You Have a Good Life: A True Story of Love, Loss and Redemption
by Campbell Armstrong.
Crown, 2000. ISBN 0609605313.

I'm Still Me
by Betty Jean Lifton.
Bantam, 1986.

May the Circle Be Unbroken: An Intimate Journey into the Heart of Adoption
by Lynn C. Franklin.
Three Rivers Press, 1997. ISBN 0609804804.

The Missing Piece
by Lee Ezell.
Vine Books, 1992. ISBN 0892837977.

Of Many Colors: Portraits of Multiracial Families
by Gigi Kaeser & Peggy Gillespie.
University of Massachusetts Press, 1997. ISBN 1558491015.

Once They Hear My Name: Korean Adoptees and Their Journeys Toward Identity
by Ellen Lee, Marilyn Lammert, Mary Anne Hess.
Tamarisk Books, 2008. ISBN 0979375606.

Orphan Voyage
by Ruthena Hill Kittson. OP
Arvin Publications, 1980.

Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers' Stories
by Mary Martin Mason.
Howard, 1995. ISBN: 0964625911.

Outer Search/Inner Journey: An Orphan and Adoptee's Quest
by Peter F. Dodds.
Aphrodite, 1997. ISBN 1889702242.

Perspectives on a Grafted Tree: Thoughts for Those Touched
by Patricia Irwin Johnston.
Perspectives Press, 1983. ISBN 0960950400.

Sacred Connections: Stories of Adoption
by Mary Ann Koenig. Photography by Niki Berg.
Running Press, 2000. ISBN 0762408014.

Shadow Train: A Journey Between Relinquishment and Reunion
by Patricia E. Taylor.
Taylor, 1995. ISBN 0965121704.

She Called Me Dad
by Joseph Tosini.
Cityhill, 1990. ISBN 0939159201.

Soul Connection: Memoir of A Birthmother's Healing Journey
by Ann H. Hughes.
Otter Bay, 1999. ISBN 0961405325.

Swimming Up the Sun: A Memoir of Adoption
by Nicole J. Burton.
Apippa Publishing, 2008. ISBN 0979899206.

Ten Thousand Sorrows : The Extraordinary Journey of a Korean War Orphan
by Elizabeth Kim.
Doubleday, 2000. ISBN 0385496338.

by Adoption by Nancy A. Robinson.
Green River Press, 1999. ISBN 0967336309.

Waiting to Forget
by Margaret Moorman.
Norton, 1998. ISBN 0393317838.

Wake Up Little Susie: Single Pregnancy and Race Before Roe v. Wade
by Rickie Solinger.
Routledge, 2nd edition 2000.

Who Is My Mother: Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Adoptees Talk About Living With Adoption and the Search for the Lost Family
by Clare Marcus.
MacMillan, 1981. ISBN 0771594941.

Within Me, Without Me: Adoption : Open and Shut Case?
by Sue Wells.
Scarlet, 1994. ISBN 1857270428.

Politics, Policy and Adoption Reform
Making Room in Our Hearts: Keeping Family Ties Through Open Adoption
by Micky Duxbury.
Routledge, 2006.

The Baby Thief: The Untold Story of Georgia Tann, the Baby Seller Who Corrupted Adoption
by Barbara Bisantz Raymond.
Carroll & Graf Publishers, 2007.

Adoption: Philosophy and Experience
by Randolph W. Severson
House of Tomorrow Productions, 1994. ISBN 1880856093.

The Adoption Mystique: A Hard-Hitting Exposé of the Powerful Negative Social Stigma That Permeates Child Adoption in the United States
by Joanne Wolf Small
Authorhouse, 2007.

Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution Is Transforming America
by Adam Pertman.
Basic Books, 2000. ISBN 0465056504.

Adoption Politics: Bastard Nation and Ballot Initiative 58
by E. Wayne Carp
University Press of Kansas, 2004. ISBN 978-0700613052

Lethal Secrets: The Psychology of Donal Insemination – Problems and Solutions
by Annette Baran, Reuben Pannor and Arthur D. Sorosky.
Amistad Press, 1993. ISBN 1567430201.

The Politics of Adoption
by Mary Kathleen Benet.

The Dark Side of Adoption
by Marsha Riben, 1988. ISBN 0966206002.

The Stork Market: America's Multi-Billion Dollar Unregulated Adoption Industry
by Mirah Riben, Foreword by Evelyn Robinson, 2007. ISBN 1427608954.

To Prison With Love: The True Story of an Indecent Indictment and America's Adoption Travesty
by Sandy Musser.
Adoption Awareness Press, 1994. ISBN 0934896372.

Search and Reunion
Adoption Searchbook: Techniques for Tracing People
by Mary Jo Rillera.
Triadoption, 1991.

Adoption Searches Made Easier
by Joseph J. Culligan.
FJA, Inc., 1996. ISBN 1572961007.

Birthbond: Reunions Between Birthparents and Adoptees
by Judith H. Gediman, Joan S. Dunphy, and Linda P. Brown.
New Horizon Press, 1991. ISBN 0882820729.

Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive Parents
by Jean Strauss. Penguin, 1994. ISBN 0140512950.

Disturbing the Peace: A Novel
by Nancy Newman.
Avon, 2002. ISBN 0380798395.

Faint Trails: A Guide to Adult Adoptee-Birth Parent Reunification Searches
by Hal Aigner.
Paradigm Press, 1987. ISBN 0937572039.

How to Find Almost Anyone, Anywhere, Revised and Updated Edition
by Norma Mott Tillman.
Rutledge Hill Press, 1998. ISBN 1558536574.

How to Open an Adoption: A guide for parents and birthparents of minors
by Patricia Martinez Dorner.
R-Squared Press, 1997. ISBN 0964103583.

How to Locate Anyone Who Is or Has Been in the Military
by Lt. Col. Richard S. Johnson.
Military Information Enterprise, 1999. ISBN 1877639508.

I Would Have Searched Forever
by Sandra Musser.
Adoption Awareness Press, 1992. ISBN 0934896003.

In Search of Mom: Journey of an Adoptee
by Michael Watson.
Gallery of Diamonds, 1998. ISBN 1891665294.

ITHAKA: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found
by Sarah Saffian.
Delta, 1999. ISBN 0385334516.

Lifeline: The Action Guide to Adoption Search
by Virgil L. Klunden.
Caradium, 1991. ISBN 1879499177.

Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience
by Betty Jean Lifton.
Harper Colllins, 1988. ISBN 0060971320.

A Man and His Mother: An Adopted Son's Search
by Tim Green.
Harper Collins, 1997.

Reunion: A Year in Letters Between a Birthmother and the Daughter She Couldn't Keep
by Katie Hern and Ellen McGarry Carlson.
Seal Press, 1999.

Search: A Handbook for Adoptees and Birthparents
by Jayne Askin.
Oryx press, 1998. ISBN 1573561150.

Sibling Reunions: A Letter to Those Who Have Been Contacted
by Randolph W. Severson.
House of Tomorrow Productions, 1991.

Thank You Son for Finding Me: A Birthmother's Story
by Beth Kane.
Aslan, 1999. ISBN 094403182X.

Whose Child? : An Adoptee's Healing Journey from Relinquishment through Reunion ... and Beyond
by Kasey Hamner.
Triad, 2000. ISBN 0967414504.


The excellent reading list above was compiled by Concerned United Birth Parents and SQA would like to thank both CUB and the authors listed for their excellent understanding of adoption triad issues.


Some of our personal favorites that are not listed in the above list are:

Love Lost and Found
by Carolyn Campbell, International Locator (Author)
Available at

"Reunited: True Stories of Long Lost Siblings Who Find Each Other Again" by Carolyn Campbell (Author)

Together Again: True Stories of Birth Parents and Adopted Children Reunited (Paperback)
by Carolyn Campbell (Author)

Lost and Found: The Guide to Finding Family, Friends, and Loved Ones
Troy Dunn (Author)
Available at

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Private Investigating, 2nd Edition
by Steven Kerry Brown
Available at

We hope you enjoy these books!

Susan E. Friel-Williams
The Staff at Search Quest America